English is not my language. English is not my culture and sometimes very simple question is hard to hear and to answer for me. I hate the question « How are you ». Here I will try to find why. Not sure I will find a reason but I will try.
Maybe I am strange but this very common question that I heard on almost every starting conversation is my hate.
I never don’t know how to answer this question. I will explain you why.
First hypothese : I am not formalist or against formalism. This question most of the time is not a question. i It is only a formal starting of conversation. And I hate that. Let’s start talking really. Usualy people answer I am fine.
Second hypothse : I receive this question as a real question and I want to answer honesty. When I am feeling good I want to say I am good when I am feeling bad I want to say I am feeling bad. But when I receive this question most of the time I am feeling bad just because of that question that I hate.
Third hypothese : I am honest. I dont’ like to lie and sometimes as I don’t like this question hypocritical I can answer I am well even when I am feeling bad.
Next hypothese : Sometimes I like to be provocative and I can answer I am feeling bad even when I am feeling good. I know that it is very impolite to say I am feeling bad. If you ask a question expect a real answer otherwise do not ask !!!
My conclusion ; I hate this question because I don’t know how to answer. I am feeling like in an exam and I must answer to that question correctly and sometimes I don’t say the correct answer. So I find this video. 36 Smart and Interesting Responses to ‘HOW ARE YOU. Maybe that will help me to pick up a random answer when I don’t know the answer.